Patience

I saw part of this talk on a friends blog (thanks Amy!) and it really made me think. I have become so impatient lately just wanting life to hurry up and move along! This talk came out a while ago but I think I am just now understanding how important it is to have patience and that I don't have enough of it! I am posting this mainly for myself so that I can look back and reflect on it. But if some of you get something out of it...then kuddos to me! Just kidding.


"In the 1960s, a professor at Stanford University began a modest experiment testing the willpower of four-year-old children. He placed before them a large marshmallow and then told them they could eat it right away or, if they waited for 15 minutes, they could have two marshmallows.

He then left the children alone and watched what happened behind a two-way mirror. Some of the children ate the marshmallow immediately; some could wait only a few minutes before giving in to temptation. Only 30 percent were able to wait.

It was a mildly interesting experiment, and the professor moved on to other areas of research, for, in his own words, “there are only so many things you can do with kids trying not to eat marshmallows.” But as time went on, he kept track of the children and began to notice an interesting correlation: the children who could not wait struggled later in life and had more behavioral problems, while those who waited tended to be more positive and better motivated, have higher grades and incomes, and have healthier relationships.

What started as a simple experiment with children and marshmallows became a landmark study suggesting that the ability to wait—to be patient—was a key character trait that might predict later success in life.

Waiting can be hard. Children know it, and so do adults. We live in a world offering fast food, instant messaging, on-demand movies, and immediate answers to the most trivial or profound questions. We don’t like to wait. Some even feel their blood pressure rise when their line at the grocery store moves slower than those around them.

Patience—the ability to put our desires on hold for a time—is a precious and rare virtue. We want what we want, and we want it now. Therefore, the very idea of patience may seem unpleasant and, at times, bitter.

Indeed, patience is a purifying process that refines understanding, deepens happiness, focuses action, and offers hope for peace.

When I was 10 years old, my family became refugees in a new land. I had always been a good student in school—that is, until we arrived in West Germany. There, my educational experience was a significantly different one. The geography we studied in my school was new to me. The history we studied was also very different. Before, I had been learning Russian as a second language; now, it was English. This was hard for me. Indeed, there were moments when I truly believed my tongue simply was not made to speak English.

Because so much of the curriculum was new and strange to me, I fell behind. For the first time in my life, I began to wonder if I was simply not smart enough for school.

Fortunately I had a teacher who taught me to be patient. He taught me that steady and consistent work—patient persistence—would help me to learn.

Over time, difficult subjects became clearer—even English. Slowly I began to see that if I applied myself consistently, I could learn. It didn’t come quickly, but with patience, it did come.

From that experience, I learned that patience was far more than simply waiting for something to happen—patience required actively working toward worthwhile goals and not getting discouraged when results didn’t appear instantly or without effort.

There is an important concept here: patience is not passive resignation, nor is it failing to act because of our fears. Patience means active waiting and enduring. It means staying with something and doing all that we can—working, hoping, and exercising faith; bearing hardship with fortitude, even when the desires of our hearts are delayed. Patience is not simply enduring; it is enduring well!"

-Dieter F. Uchtdorf

My friend Jodi sent this to me and it is the video (newer version obviously) of the marshmallow experiment. The kids are too cute!

Lone Star State

Back in April Shawn and I took a weekend jaunt to Texas. I know it's kind of random but Shawn was taking a fire test there and I didn't want to miss out on the fun so I decided to tag along. We left EARLY Friday morning out of the Sac Airport and were going to go to Denver for a quick layover and then make our way to Texas. The first flight was perfect, nice and quick and then we landed in Denver. That's when the disaster started. I thought we were never going to escape! Our flight was supposed to leave around noon and around 12:30 an airline attendant gets on the intercom and says that our plane is having technical difficulties. Now granted, I never want to get into an airplane that is having technical difficulties, but at this point I was just ready to get on an airplane! Well the lady tells us that they are going to take a look at the plane and see if they can fix it, move us all to another airplane or cancel our flight. Up to this point in my life I have been pretty lucky in flying, i've never had a flight cancelled, moved or anything like that. I had no IDEA the nightmare this was going to be. So...long story short about an hour later they tell all of us that our flight had been cancelled. It was a mad dash to the customer service counter, across the airport. (If you've ever been in the Denver airport you know that it is gigantic. Oh and if you ever need a tour, let me know. I'm pretty sure I have the whole place memorized.) Needless to say they put us on 3 stand-by flights and the next flight they had confirmed seats was for 8:30 that night. We got to see a whole lot of the Denver airport. When our names actually did get called for the 6 o'clock flight they only had one seat left, trust me I was tempted to just hop on that airplane and never look back. Of course I didn't because unfortunately I'm not old enough to rent a car and it not cost me an arm and a leg...so I had to wait for Shawn...but if it hadn't been for that, let me tell ya! We finally make it to Dallas. I don't think I have ever been so happy to get out of a airport in my entire life! The trip was really short but pretty fun. I honestly think the "fun" was kind of sucked out by the whole airport fiasco...but oh well. Good memories. HAHA.

I think this was after we had been in the airport for about 6 hours...I was over it.

This was the amazing view!! (Insert sarcasm here)

The other amazing view!

The next day, Saturday, afer Shawn's test we decided to go try out this hamburger joint. We have heard about it from a radio stadion that we listen to. The guy on the show is from Texas and he is always talking about Whataburger. I have to say it was pretty good, but then again I am not a huge hamburger person...but I would probably eat there again.

Anytime Shawn and I go somewhere we drive around forever just looking at different areas. Fortunately we did that in Texas and came across this little gem. Catfish Corner. It was the stinkiest place ever!


The Dallas temple. I was amazed at where it was located. Most of the time temples are on hills or somewhere that they can be easily found. This temple was hidden in a neighborhood, but it was really pretty regardless.
I am so mad at myself that I didn't get a picture of the old Dallas Stadium. After we got home I was watching the news and saw that they had demolished it. I was so bummed that I didn't get a picture!
So pretty much we didn't get pictures of crap. Oh well...better luck next time!

All in all it was a fun trip with my hubby!! I love him so much and we have such a good time together...even if it is in an aiport!
The moral of the story is...just get a direct flight!!!